Category: Self-Esteem/Body Image

A year of growth and gratitude…

dec15dDecember is a trainer’s quietest month and a hairdresser and beauty tech’s silver pocket! As much as we try to remind our clients to stay on track through the holiday month, which seems to be getting longer and longer each year, we know that we may have a few unrealistic expectations of what might occur! An average of 1-10 pounds are gained through the holiday season from the time of the American Thanksgiving, to the New Year! However, we know its our job to get everyone back on track in January and hope that our hard working clients hear our little voice on their shoulder when they are about to have their 4th sugary cocktail of the evening or all those appies before a big dinner!

Lecture done!

This past year I have witnessed so much growth in so many of myDec15b clients and I’ve experienced a lot of growth as well. My “Mantra” has been and continues to be, “Power from Within”. My clientele is primarily women and I’m almost sure its through the “Law of Attraction” that my ladies and I come together. I train with them anywhere from several times per week, to once every couple weeks for a “check-in”. During our sessions a lot is confided in me and sometimes I’m shocked at how much trust is given to me so quickly. It is never something I take lightly and over time, some of what is confided helps my clients and I realize that there may be other obstacles in the way preventing them from reaching their goals. What I’ve learned the most is that when these amazing women find empowerment, things start falling into place.

One of the best ways I have found in achieving this is through setting new personal records at the gym. Lets take the focus off of looking a certain way, losing a set amount of weight, going on a vacation so you have to look good, etc. etc . Lets focus on lifting heavy, improving time on conditioning rounds and getting strong on the outside. Just today, one of my clients hit a new personal record of a bench press at 175lbs!!! The men at the gym were looking on and cheering – in complete AWE! Most men can’t lift that amount of weight. Through that session, she was able to vent to me about what was hapdec15cpening in her life. We channeled that energy through her lifts – and look what happened.

One of the biggest things I see in these women is that once they start taking time for themselves, getting that physical activity in, they gain a sense of control back in their life. When everything seemed to be spiraling out of control for perhaps months,
years or even decades… those heavy lifts, those tabata drills or metabolic conditioning workouts take them to a place for just one hour where they can let everything go and focus on their strength. There is not only a physical after-burn effect but also a sense of accomplishment. Once this becomes routine, that sense of accomplishment becomes self-confidence and self-love. When we love ourselves and start respecting our selves, we give our body what it needs. Proper nourishment to fuel those new goals, sleep, massage, chiropractic, regular medical check-ups, etc. etc. Its a wonderful wheel and I am so completely grateful for getting to witness this with so many. I couldDec15an’t have a more amazing job!

Of course, I can’t win them all. Some I try and try and literally bang my head trying to think of what I might be missing. What the missing link may be. However, I know that like anything else, you have to be in a place where you are completely ready to surrender and trust the process, know that its not going to be all gumdrops and roses and lots of days its going to feel down-right impossible. There may be weeks and weeks of no progress but it takes picking yourself up and repeating the process week after week to convince yourself that you’re completely worth it. I need them to know that I will never give up on them and when they need me, I will be here for them!

So on a final note, I want to express my gratitude to all of my clients. For letting me share in your life, for trusting in me as a friend, for letting me kick your butts and make you sore and cranky and tired. For letting me lecture you on your nutrition and most of all for teaching me sooooo much! I love each and every one of you and I’m so blessed!dec15e

May you all have a safe, relaxing, healthy holiday! I’m so excited to work with you and everyone new in 2016!

xo

~Olivia

Struggles…

I always have such a hard time starting my posts. My brain synapses fire in 8000 different directions and I’m not sure that everything that I want to say will end up coming together in a conclusive matter… but here it goes…

I’ve been pondering people’s struggles… a lot. I’ve even talked at length with my mentor about it. This past week, after finishing another couple of books with eight others on the go (I seriously have book ADHD – its amazing I ever finish a book!), watching a documentary last weekend (I have an exciting life!), and a whole whack of client cancellations (some weeks go like this), I have felt the weight of the world on my shoulders.

The problem is that no one can solve the problem. Seventy-eight billion dollars are spent on the diet and weight loss industry every year in North America (53% of Statistics are made up on the spot – and while I’ve tried to find the EXACT number – there are too many variables – one indicated if you include bariatric surgeries – it soars to close to $140 Billion in the US alone). So I keep asking myself, “Can anyone actually ever change?”. One book I have finished, titled, Body of Truth, by Harriett Brown does not seem to think so. I read this book twice. I agree with some, but not all of what she had to say.

There are a ton of factors that go into why I feel we are not successful on our weight loss journeys. The first, quite obvious from the dollar expenditure above is that humans (in this generation) want instant gratification. We don’t really want to have to work for it. I don’t mean this as an insult but its one-hundred percent true (and yes, I made that statistic up!). The thing that comes to mind here is all the multi-level marketing companies out there promoting their “lifestyle” changes through various supplements and shakes. My clients come to me at least once a week asking about the “newest” system on the market. I then go research it and find another dozen out there. There are literally hundreds of these systems out thstruggle1ere. I have had clients show up for their workouts with me on their second “cleanse” day so depleted that we couldn’t make it through a workout. I always discourage clients from any of these systems. At first, they can have great success but I don’t know very many who want to bring their tubs of meal replacement to the Bahamas with them so that they can stay on track.

Another big problem is our perceived sense of reality. I need a huge kick in the ass about three times a week from either my husband or a friend when I whine and snivel about how I look. Who the hell am I comparing myself to? Well… of course then I have to research it to death (that’s my original trade after all…). Here is a great video I found (by the way – this gal is super cute and has a great, common sense approach). Well, I compare myself to those asshole Instagram pictures of girls twenty years younger than me who have rock hard abs and huge muscles!!! I have been told many times that I may be a bit “naive” about how these women are achieving their bodies. I do think our expectations of how we should look are slowly changing with things such as the Dove campaigns and the Special-K campaigns – LOVE this video!

One of the BIGGEST problems is our food, what we eat, how the food industry produces and mstruggle2arkets our food. Its awful, shameful, should be illegal… I recommend this documentary to EVERYONE!!! Its on Apple TV and Netflix. It should be shown in our middle/high schools. I almost blew a FUSE when my oldest daughter brought home homework on the Canada food guide. You’ve GOT to be kidding me. I know the teachers have no control over this, as its required curriculum – but seriously even the US is ahead of us now with their rendition of the food guide, although the grains is still way out of proportion. Our food is being created to be addictive. There are great books out there explaining this phenomenon as well. Moreover, while our food is being created to be addictive, there are some people who are genetically predisposed to be more addicted to certain types of foods (mainly white, processed foods – aka sugar and flours). Some people have the same types of addictions to food as those with a drug or alcohol addiction. I also recommend the book, Food Junkies, by Vera Tarman. She even goes into talking about how so many people who have bariatric surgeries (another instant gratification solution) turn to alcohol and become alcoholics or drug addicts. The problem with the bariatric surgeries most of the time is that these people still have not dealt with the CORE reason of for their obesity. This could be emotional trauma or chemical trauma such as food addiction.

Other problems include our emotions and our lives in general. We are too busy and too sleep deprived. Don Saladino – a celebrity personal trainer in New York stated on a TV program I was watching (I do occasionally make it past 8:00pm) that his biggest secret to weight loss is SLEEP. One of his male clients lost 9 pounds in ONE MONTH by adding 90 minutes of sleep to his night!! There is a TON of research out there on sleep and weight gain. I know myself, if I am tired – LOOK OUT CARBS – oh my word… I will devour any sort of sugar left in my path… My Mom (who is a part of the generation that did all the latest diets – along with all of my clients her age and now have damaged metabolisms and are stuck on the 1200 calorie a day regimen – side bar: you should see the look in their eyes when I prescribe them 1900-2200 calories – they almost pass out!) often talked about how she would tell her weight loss clinic or group or whatever – about the tiredness and always felt “silly” or that she was alone in that problem and how she couldn’t control her appetite if she was sleep deprived. Flash forward 20 years – OH we have HORMONES that get f#*ked up if we don’t get enough sleep and we eat like there will be no tomorrow (now they just have to figure out how to get these hormones in control – common’ science people!!!).

Emotions. I wrote about this a while back. You have to deal with your shit before you’ll get anywhere. Again, Brenda Turstruggle4ner in her response to the huge ass Nicole Arbour (may karma come to you bitch)… she talks about how so many people wear their battle scars on the outside in the form of obesity. I don’t believe that all obese people are obese due to emotional issues. I see there being a HUGE problem with food addiction, which I believe to be more chemical but can certainly be an emotional issue in and of itself. In this video however, she is talking more specifically about abuse, etc. I have clients who deal with depression, anxiety, eating disorders, self-esteem, self-confidence issues… the myriad of emotions that create toxicity within our body. Toxic thoughts create toxic chemical reactions within our body. If you are constantly telling yourself that you are worthless, fat, ugly, stupid, etc. Your subconscious does NOT know the difference, it may as well be the person standing across from you yelling these things. I’m a firm believer in that you become what you think or believe. Trust me, I’m a work in process as well…

So back to how I will pull this all together… I often hear the statement, “Why am I not seeing results?”. My answers can be summed up as follows:

  1. Are you working hard enough? That is, are you putting in the time at the gym or with some sort of exercise routine? We are so much more sedentary than ever before. One hour of exercise at the gym is NOT enough… walk – move around… park further away, go for small walks – keep your body MOVING… 1 hour at the gym is only 4% of our day!
  2. Are you being consistent? This relates to number 1. You can’t exercise 5 days one week and 1 the next and expect results. You need to be CONSISTENT!!
  3. What TYPES of food are you eating and HOW MUCH?? We always under estimate how much of what we are eating. Try using a food tracker for a few days to see where your macronutrients are falling (calories, fat, protein, carbs)
  4. BE CONSISTENT!!! Again, you can’t eat clean all week and then binge on the weekend… you’ll ruin ALL of your dedicated eating. Instead, as I’ve said before follow the 80/20 rule. 80% clean and 20% for joy and pleasure – whether you plan that on a micro level (80% of your daily meals, 80% of your week, month… ).
  5. SLEEP!!! Get enough – if you don’t your hormones will be out of whack and you’ll not burn fat the way you should and your appetite won’t be regulated the way it should.
  6. Deal with your SHIT! All the emotional baggage. Divorce, affairs, abuse, cancer, death, special needs, children, depression, anxiety, eating disorders… the list goes on. Until you deal with what is holding you back in your life emotionally, change will be almost impossible to achieve. Mental, emotional and spiritual health is paramount to fix first before you can be consistent with all the rest.

… But mostly I want people to know that they are not alone in their battles. Each and every one of my clients battles – I become so attached to them and want to take away their hurt and solve their problems as if they are my own children… it keeps me up some nights. I want to find THE ULTIMATE solution to the very problem I opened with. But for now, I don’t have all the answers… just the ones that are close to my heart. Knowing that hopefully if I can provide them with enough easy to digest knowledge, the right tools, the best support that I can, a place to vent or cry to that is not attached to them in other ways such as a family or friend – a place of “unconditional support” and confidence, that everything will be ok. Not perfect, but ok. We can achieve great things through small steps, common sense approach, long-term changes, and mostly through finding even the smallest of things to be grateful for when the world seems to be crashing down on us.

xo

~Olivia

Don’t judge until you’ve walked the walk…

addiction1 I totally get T-Swift. I can totally relate to her, something happens and you just have to write about it. Too bad I can’t sing although I’m sure what I write about wouldn’t make the billboard 100. However, when my emotions run, I love to write. In fact, I have quite a few “un-published” blog posts…

This summer on a visit to my friend Andrea’s, I mentioned that I would love to write a book one day (Andrea is about to publish her second). She said, “fantastic – so what’s it about?”. I said, “well, that’s the problem… I don’t have anything exciting or new and fantastic to write about.” She said that writing a book usually comes from a place of pain and the more I thought about it, the more I know she is right.

I don’t have any Earth shattering, traumatic experiences to write about. I had an amazing childhood, I have amazing parents, in-laws and husband that support me to no end. I have two beautiful and perfect (well almost, lol) daughters. I have a life that a lot of people would love to have and yes, I am truly grateful for it each day.

Sometimes our pain comes from a place of “hard-addiction3wiring” in the brain. This is my battle. This is SO many of our battles. Chemical imbalances causing depression, anxiety, negative self-talk, etc. that continue to tell us that we just aren’t enough or just not good enough, despite what those who love us say and what the logical parts of our brain say.

So, today, I’m sitting here writing because I’m in pain. Emotionally and physically. I’d way rather be at the gym working out right now. But, I’m on a forced rest day. One out of two rest days that I’ve taken since June 23rd.

Since June 23rd, I’ve worked out every single day except two (including today) because I hurt my hip two days ago. Yesterday, despite being in so much pain I could hardly walk, I decided to go do a “light” back workout. Despite my massage therapist (who is also a friend) tell me the parts of my body that need to be rested, I HAD to get my workout in.

So I went. I did my workout. I then came home, took my 4th ibuprofen of the day and laid on the floor with an ice pack. My daughter then rubbed physiotherapy strength cream into my hip and back, helped me off the floor and I went to bed. I was awake all night in pain.

Today, my plan was to go to a meeting first thing, then an appointment, then to the gym for my workouts, which last anywhere from an hour (minimum) to two hours. This didn’t happen obviously and I’ve now cried a total of three times due to the anxiety I’m having about not getting a workout in – and probably due to the realizationaddiction2 that my addiction has been creeping up on me again this summer. The signs are all there but an addict chooses to look away.

I know those of you who physically see me are probably thinking – she certainly doesn’t LOOK like she has an exercise addiction! Well, you’d be right… the signs are often not obvious, which is why it can be one of the easiest forms of addiction to hide. So what are my symptoms? First, weight gain. I’m not gaining weight because I’m eating donuts and pizza. I eat a very well balanced diet, I watch what I eat, I do indulge occasionally but I am not gaining weight because of what I’m eating. I know, I know, I know… I joke about my wine habit – but I honestly don’t drink as much as I let on… When you over-train, your cortisol (stress hormone) goes way up to a point until its completely depleted and then its drained and you have to heal your adrenal glands and its a lot of work. Over-training actually slows your metabolism and you also tend to eat more… my diet is good – but most likely I am taking in additional calories because I am over-training my appetite too. This is why people training for marathons gain weight – or people think that they will sign up for a race to lose weight – often don’t or even gain… more exercise – more hunger.

Other signs – I can’t sleep, I’m tired ALL the time and my joints hurt. This time around, my small joints – something I’ve never experienced before. Two weeks ago, I was at the lake and I couldn’t pull up my pants because my fingers and forearms were too sore. Despite being sore – I still did a heavy workout and was beyond frustrated when I couldn’t hold onto the water-ski rope for more than 5 minutes.

I would never prescribe the amount or intensity of exercise to my clients that I give to myself. I know all the reasons why I shouldn’t be doing what I am doing. I also know that I would make a heck of a lot more progress in my physique – heavier lifts, more definition and fat loss – if I CUT BACK. So why can’t I just do it?

Well, its no different than the woman who can’t give up purging after her meals, its no different than the people going through drive-thru windows and eating upwards of 2000 calories hidden away in their car. Its an addiction, we know better, we know we need to stop we know what we need to do to be successful – but something inside just doesn’t let us stop.

I phoned my Mom this morning and cried. She gets all “Momish” with me and says, “grow-up,addiction5 you ended up in the hospital once because of this – you have two kids to raise – quit being so selfish” – me feeling like I’m 17 instead of 37. My friend says, well, its an “easy-fix – train two days, take one day off”. What they don’t realize is its not just a matter of stopping. The anxiety that triggers LACK of the addictive behaviour is what the problem is.

So, here I am once again wondering if I should be posting such personal issue. Some will think, “well, she is not equipped to be a trainer if she can’t take care of her own shit.” But to me, I hope for just the opposite. I am inspired and learn SO SO SO much from my clients. I form such an emotional attachment to all of them – even the skinny ones who are trying so hard to PUT ON weight… imagine that! lol… My biggest hope is that I can help my clients because I understand their battles – I live them myself. I want them to have a place of non-judgement – a place and person to help them feel safe when they are entrusting me with one of the most vulnerable parts of their lives – their body-image, self-esteem, health and fitness. Its truly my passion – I read countless articles, continually update my education, chat with other coaches and trainers and health professionals. Like I said at the start, we KNOW what’s right and what it takes. I teach all of my clients the right things, I talk to them about what their body needs… its almost as if I’m trying to teach myself over and over again. Its through this that I continue to search for answers for myself and my clients… we all have different needs and different battles.

So please, never place judgement on any of us until you’ve “walked the walk”.

xo ~Oliviaaddiction4

Why ya gotta be so mean?

 

 

 

I suppose we have all experienced it… feeling a little bit of joy from someone else’s failure or misfortune… Did you know that there is an actual term for that emotion? Its called Scaudenfreude!  It is defined as pleasure derived from someone else’s failure or misfortune. Its sad that as humans we feel these sorts of things toward each other. There have actually been some studies on why people feel this. It comes down to having low self-esteem, feeling threatened by someone else’s success or perhaps feeling that a certain person deserves to fail or have something bad or unfortunate happen to them.

I’ve heard this from a few of my clients who have lost significant amounts of weight. They say that even their best friends are just “waiting for them to fail and gain all of their weight back”. Some people even take action as if to try sabotage their friend or loved one’s weight-loss/fitness journey. How? By putting them in positions that cause temptation or social pressure. It could even be an insecure partner or spouse who feels as though their relationship might fail if their partner becomes more attractive by losing weight or becoming fit.

I’ve experienced it myself. I’ve written in the past about my own weight loss. Fortunately, I have never been a yo-yoer… I lost weight once and have maintained – well I have now achieved what I consider a maintainable, healthy weight. I’ve been within ear-shot of women in the gym who feel that I don’t fit the “personal-trainer” mold. Does it bother me? I’d be lying if I said no. It has definitely made me feel insecure at times… but never for very long. A few self-reminders that I am in this business to help others become fit and healthy are all I need to make those feelings dissipate.mean

Three years ago, I was at 17% bodyfat and what it took me to achieve that was not something that was healthy nor maintainable for ME. What it takes for one person to achieve a certain physique and leanness is not the same for all. There are genetic factors, medications, lifestyle factors and many other variables that make it less maintainable for some. I’ve come to a point in my life where I am very comfortable and proud of my strength and fitness levels. My focus has changed from being as lean as possible to being as fit as I can be cardiovascularly and in my endurance and strength as I can possibly be.

I’m also a huge foodie as are all my friends in our social circle. We love to travel to different places and the first thing we do is research the hottest places to eat and drink! I’ve even taken my level one sommeliers! I love to sit down at the end of the day with a glass of wine and some dark chocolate to unwind… for me, its therapeutic… and I’m at a place of self-acceptance where egg whites and rice crackers are not going to do it for me. Some take pleasure in will-power and dedication to a very strict diet and achieving a very lean physique. I admire them whole-heartedly and often stand in awe. I never look at them and wish they would drive down a jar of Nutella or 10 pounds of poutine or just go get a life… that is THEIR life and they are living it the way they choose.

So what can YOU do if you feel as though you have no one on your side? Well, talk to your trainer! So many of my clients will email me, text and just plain vent during their training sessions. This is one of the main reasons that I won’t train friends and family. It can get too personal. When I have a client whom I have no previous personal relationship with – its easy for me to stand back and be objective about a lot of situations. The client then also feels safe and in a place of non-judgement. If your best friend keeps asking you out for wine and appies and knows you are trying to lose weight… she may not be your best friend. If your Mom invites you over for dinnmean2er and serves all of your “favorites”… you may need to have a talk. If your spouse tells you that your workouts are a waste of time or stupid…well… that is certainly not a supportive partner and you may need to do some serious soul-searching.

The other thing that you can do and that I do daily, is remind yourself how blessed and fortunate you are. I thank the universe daily for the path its led me on and ask for guidance. I wish the best for people no matter what they may wish for me. I choose to place my energies at a higher place than those who wish evil on me. You can only control your own thoughts and actions. You can do nothing to control the thoughts and actions of others. So to spend time worrying about the thoughts of others is simply a waste of your own time and energy.

Focus on your goals. Decide what you need to do to achieve your moderation and don’t feel guilty or bad about doing what you need to do to stay on track. Practice self-love affirmation. To get my clients started, I will often print and decorate a little sentence each week and have them place it where they can read it over and over. State out-loud each day what you are thankful for in your life. As my clients and readers know, I am a firm believer in the law-of-attraction… if you continue to practice positive self-affirmations and focus your energies toward the positives, you WILL attain your true place and the best possible you.mean1

Name your price…

 

 

 

 

 

 

One of the biggest reasons people balk at the idea of a personal trainer is cost. I myself, have spent a fairly large wad on a trainer. Sure, I could have gone to Mexico or saved it for a rainy day, but I chose to invest in myself. Don’t get me wrong… charging those sessions on the good ol’ plastic was hard to swallow – but I can’t even begin to explain the return on investment it had for me. Something that will benefit me for many many years into the future.

Working with a trainer pushed me to a new level. I was able to find something inside that I didn’t know I had. Its human nature – we aim to please. My form is gonna be perfect and I’m going to finish my last rep just as strong as my first – if someone is watching and cheering me on. That means that I’m working to my full capacity, there is no time or effort wasted and I know I’m safe because my trainer knows my tipping point.

Then there is that whole motivation thing. For me, being at the gym is never an issue. But, I will say for 80% of my clients – the reason theycost2 have a trainer – is so they stay committed to the gym. They book the appointment time and commit to it because if they don’t – they simply won’t come. Again, we aim to please – my clients rely on me and I rely on them –  to show up and work hard. If they have consistently booked times with me – they aren’t going to bail just because “they’re too tired, its too cold, I have a headache, my toad died… etc., etc. etc.”. They might be dead-ass tired because they went to bed too late, or they might have a headache – but they know I’m there – waiting for them – to come with their game on. In fact, twice, I’ve had two separate clients come and tell me that they were going to cancel because they felt a migraine coming on. Both of them, by 20 minutes in – said that their headaches were gone! Now if curing a migraine isn’t worth a workout… I don’t know what to tell you!

If I’m still having a hard time convincing you, let me ask you this? How long have you been waiting?cost3 How long have you been waiting to lose those 5, 10, 25, or 50 extra pounds? How many Monday’s have you said, “this is it?”, how many times have you said, “next summer I will wear a bathing suit and play with my kids at the beach”. How long have you been waiting and trying to convince yourself to exercise to get your blood pressure in check, your cholesterol down, or just so you won’t be winded carrying the groceries in the house? What is YOUR price? What are YOU worth? Well, only that you can decide. What I can tell you from my point of view is that if by now, you haven’t done it on your own and its grinding at you… you’re worth it and trainers are here to see you be successful. We are here to hold you accountable – if you need to come and have a good cry before we hit the floor, we close the office door, talk it out and then work it out. A great trainer isn’t just here to put you through the motions – it also involves all of the emotions – your emotions and helping you get to the bottom of what’s standing in your way.

From a financial perspective it can seem like a lot. It is. Its not cheap. It is a lot of money. Not gonna lie… But think of it this way… say you come to see your trainer once a week. Spread the cost of that ONE session over seven days. Why? Because, if you come to see me once and I hold you accountable for your workouts for the rest of the week – remember – we aim to please… you aren’t going to want to come to me the next week and say, “Olivia, I totally bombed. I didn’t get any more workouts in and I ate cheetos and Nutella (yeah – my weapon of choice) all week.” No, when you see me next week and I ask, “So, Jane, did you get all three of your workouts in last week? Did you eat protein at every meal last week?”, you’re going to want to do your trainer proud and say, “hell ya – I rocked it!” – then we do our little secret happy dance and celebrate! (I’m so not joking – I have a happy dance to Taylor Swift’s – Shake it out song that I do FOR one of my clients – okay so I might have just lost myself some business there – but whatever works…).

I have some pretty amazing people who have saved for training to invest in themselves – their health and fitness education – you have to see it like that as well – trainers are professionals – we are going to be continuously teaching you as well as coaching you. You will soon use interchangeable terms like we do – like gluteus medius – A.K.A. – side butt (I can totally hear some of my clients laughing at this right now). I like words like “side butt”. Its much more visual to say – “okay – now squeeze your side bum, now this one should target your back bum… you get the point”. You’ll just have cool things you can tell your friends like, “oh man… I totally rocked my rhomboids today” – okay – I’ve gone too far, I know, I know…

So skip your Starbucks for a month (yay me! $100.00 a month!), don’t BUY a bottle of water – bring one! Seriously cost– a bottle of water a day – that’s like $60.00 at least (unless you’re buying SMART water – hell – you could pay off your house in a year if you’re buying that shit!). Bag your lunch for a month! So many teeny tiny things we can do to save and invest in ourselves.

Also – most trainers and gyms sell sessions in packages. Usually, the more you buy the better deal it is. But, ask your trainer what they can do for you to stretch your sessions out. I have clients where one hour doesn’t fit for them – so we break our 10 package session into 20 – 30 minute sessions – or 13 – 45 minute sessions. It has to fit your lifestyle and your pocket book! If you want to commit long term – ask us what kind of deal you could get on 20 or 30 sessions!

So, if you’ve been thinking about training but worried that it costs too much or feeling guilty about spending money on something so “luxurious” – just ask yourself, “What’s my price? What am I worth?”.

I think you’re worth every penny…cost4

xo

~Olivia

 

Discipline or Dedication?

 

 

 

 

 

 

This was the question posed to me on Tuesday night last week.

I had messaged my beloved Pro-Trainer, the amazing Andrea Thatcher to enlist myself in her services to help ME lose 10 pounds of “jiggle”. Dedication1

This past year, I decided to change up my diet and add carbohydrates back into my diet – after joining and reading the Eat to Perform forums and website. I’ve talked about this in previous posts. I felt that I had hit a plateau in my own training. I just couldn’t seem to increase my strength anymore. I was tired and sluggish… and voila! This really got me over the hump. But as I mentioned… I added a nice soft little layer of jiggle.

I’m not gonna lie… its bothered me a lot. My summer clothes were not fitting – I was no longer wanting to sport a two-piece last summer and these past couple months… I’ve been a bit – or maybe some days – a LOT – insecure about being a personal trainer – and “not looking the part”.

The thing is – my goal the past while has been to be as fit as I can be… I want to pound out the anaerobic intervals and lift heavier and heavier – it hasn’t been about aesthetics at all the past year. All about performance.

I also know what it will take to “lean up” a bit. The wine needs to be cut way back… the chocolate needs to be cut way back… dipping into the nuts and peanut butter needs to be cut back, etc. etc. The thing is – I eat clean (well wine is pretty clean – lol…) but its the portions that need to be cut back.

I had someone recently say to me, that I didn’t truly understand what it meant to be overweight because even at my “heaviest”, I wasn’t really that overweight. That my 10 pounds were “vanity weight”. I kind of pondered that a bit and while I understood what this person was saying, I still thought… we all have our “shit” and mine might be “vanity weight” – they are still making me feel insecure.

So this gets me right back to the question posed to me by Andrea last week… I said to her, “What the F*!@, I’m a trainer and I can’t buckle down to lose 10 damn pounds! I feel like all my hard work in the gym is covered under fat and that means no one can see how “fit” I am and that reflects poorly on me as a trainer. Why would clients want ME to help them – when I can’t do it myself?”.

WHOA – hold the phone!

Andrea: So basically, you are attaching your self-worth to 10 pounds? dedication2

Me: uhhhhh…

Andrea: I would love to help you but there is no way in hell I’m taking your money if you are attaching your self-worth to 10 pounds. I can give you the best, most “awesomest” workouts and the best nutrition plan there is. But if you are telling me right now – which is exactly what I’m hearing – that you are attaching your self-worth to 10 pounds, then I won’t let you hire me.

Me: uhhhhhh…

Andrea: I will call you out on your shit all the time. AND SO… you can either THANK the Universe for giving you all that you have and use YOUR battles to relate and SHARE with your clients – or you can be a f*&#ing hypocrite.

Me: well… that’s one way to put it.

Andrea: So I’m gonna give you some time to think about that and before I LET YOU hire me for those 10 pounds – you need to give me some damn good solid reasons for wanting to lose them.

Me: (trying desperately not to break down into full out balling mess in a tiny voice) Ok, Andrea… thank you, thank you, thank you – I love you!

Andrea: Now here is the question… Are you going to do this through dedication or discipline? Because, if you feel you need to be “disciplined”, its not going to work. You aren’t “disciplined” with your children, or your work, or your husband… you are “dedicated”. There is a HUGE difference. You cannot succeed until you are ready to be completely dedicated.

Me: Wow, I have NEVER thought about it that way.

Oh and then we started talking about all sorts of other fun stuff.

And THAT is why we all need mentors.

So with that… I have decided to be THANKFUL to my Universe for providing me with this battle so that I can SHARE my struggles with my OWN clients – so that I know exactly how they feel when they come to me and say, “Oh my god Olivia, I ate like crap all week and I only got one workout in!”. I can respond with, “You know… I had a pretty awful week of eating too – chocolate for breakfast (but it had pumpkin seeds!)…”. And then, we share some ways in which we can BOTH be accountable for a new week ahead. I’m human and I’d rather be completely transparent and relate-able, than a “f$*%ing hypocrite”.

xo

~Olivia

 

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